February 3, 2009

  • Being honest

    The last time I cried in my car for academic reasons I had just transferred from the Linguistics department. I knew that, despite my interest in languages, Linguistics graduate study was not for me. So I applied mid year to another department and was blessed to get in. But that first semester was rough. I'm an intelligent person. I know that. Still. after a few classes that semester my confidence in my intelligence wavered. I felt like the work I was doing was sub-par. I felt stupid. Every day for a while (maybe a two to four week period) I would leave class utterly exhausted mentally. I would get into my car, shut the door and cry. There were deep sobs of woe, complete with dripping hot, wet tears. I had no shame. I felt horrible. Then I got over it, regained my confidence. Knew myself better.

    Today, I got into my car again and cried for the first time in two years. The tears blocked my vision as I drove to work, and my sobs filled the silence of the car. I didn't care. I had no shame. I found out today that I didn't do very well on the second half of my Master's exam (which I had suspected directly after taking the thing). It's a comprehensive exam that took 6 hours. After the first half I felt good (I passed that part), but by the second half I was tired and nervous and really just wanted it all to end. I left doubting how well I did. For good reason apparently.

    I'm so disappointed. I have another chance to take it clearly, before getting my degree (hopefully!) in May. I just had/have so many things on my mind. So much to do. I'm so disappointed and so very sad, but I know that I have another opportunity, and that I am inordinately blessed. Things always tend to work out in my favor.

    Eventually I dried my tears, got out of my car and walked to work. No more tears.

Comments (7)

  • My dear, I have every confidence in you!

  • I'm positive you'll do well. I'll be praying for your continued success.

  • pls don't be sad.these things happen sometimes but it will not defeat you.You are in my prayers and I'm sure you'll do fine.

  • Learning to deal with life's disappointments helps us appreciate life's blessings even more. It's kinda like how the sunshine looks so much better after a few rainy days... Hang in there, honey. It will work out & you will achieve your goals... because you know to keep trying until you do succeed in attaining them.

  • @TheLoquaciousLady - Thank you darling! I will keep that in mind when I eventually retake it.

    @MyxlDove - I'll need the prayer. Thanks so much :)

    @preetylenses -  Yeah, I'm working on the not defeated part. I'm realizing that I am stronger than I think. Thank you for the concern :)

    @Shirlann - You are so very right. What is life, after all, without a little disappointment. Thanks so much for the kind words. I feel better already!

  • i completely understand.  more than you could ever know.

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